Your 20's are a decade worth of trial and error. A time where each mistake or achievement plays an integral role in the kind of person you're going to grow to become. I'm not saying we don't continue to develop once we hit 30, but, I consider those 10 years to be the foundation blocks. Are you going to work hard, reach higher, learn from your mistakes and leave a lasting impression on those that cross your path? Or, will you let those years of opportunity and precious moments pass you by? The choice is yours to make.
When I look back on my 20's I feel as though I managed to handle all the up's and down's relatively well. Like many, I experienced heartache, lost loved ones, moved across the country, made friends and lost friends, changed careers, created opportunities, attempted and failed, experienced bullying, went on a physical rollercoaster, and battled anxiety. Now, could I have avoided any of it? Of course I could have, but I don't live with regret and know that it was all a learning curve. Everything had to happen in order to continue on my personal legend (if you haven't read The Alchemist, do it)!
Because everything had to happen, I didn't come out of my 20's unscathed. I learned valuable lessons the hard way. Thankfully, I was surrounded by a core group of friends and family that never let me doubt myself, pushed me to be stronger, and helped me become the woman I am today.
Whether you're in your 20's and apply the 10 things below, or if you're well into your 30's or wiser, you can still keep these at the forefront of your mind to ensure you continue working on your self-confidence and blazing the trail you were meant to. So, here is my list of 10 thing's you should know in your 20's:
1. Everything will be okay in the end! If it’s not okay, it’s not the end. Take a deep breath, shed a tear if need be, but pick yourself up and move forward. The world isn't ending and neither are you. Have faith in the process and know that time can help heal.
2. Education is key! Whether you complete a degree, certificate or take night classes, more tools in your tool box is never a bad thing. Not only is it great to have on your resume, but education helps develop a new perspective on life, it helps build opinions, creates friendships and confidence.
3. Be kind and empower others. Don’t achieve success by putting others down to get ahead. It will eventually circle back. If there's a new kid in town, welcome them. If someone needs help, offer your assistance. If you can contribute your time, lend a hand to those in need. If there is an opportunity to pay a compliment, praise and give thanks. I think you get the idea...
4. Set goals and stick to them. Each achievement will build your confidence, make you stronger, and help you believe in your abilities. They may not always turn out but learn to trust that it didn't for a reason. Continue moving forward, continue setting goals, and trust yourself.
5. Don’t live in fear of a broken heart or the eternal single life. Your heart will get broken, you may be single for a while, but once you’ve learned to love yourself and be confident the right one will come. Somehow the universe knows when you've come to this realization. Loving yourself is in fact the gateway to letting someone else in.
6. You are the company that you keep. Surround yourself by friends that will support, motivate, and be honest when needed. They are there during the crucial developmental stages so choose wisely. Life can get heavy and negative enough, no need to be around people that only add to it.
7. Take care of yourself. Be kind to your body, stay active, take care of your skin (wrinkles are inevitable), and most importantly…sleep! Sleep plays an important role on your physical health so get those zzz's in.
8. R-e-s-p-e-c-t. Plain and simple. My Grandfather always told me to respect my elders and open doors, to show my boss and colleagues respect, and to respect myself. If you can't respect others why should others respect you and vice versa. But self respect is also super important because no one else will do that for you.
9. Take 5. Whenever you're faced with a bully, a hurtful comment on social media, a difficult boss or colleague, take five minutes to understand and analyze the situation but then move on. Why? Because it's usually never about you so don't let it consume your thoughts or energy. Girl, you're going places and you ain't got time for that. Be confident and move forward.
10. Save your money. Even if it’s $10 a week, tuck it away. Don’t feel pressured to buy expensive things or buy the latest fashion, electronics etc. When you're finally in your 30's and have savings, you can buy those potentially expensive items with cash or debit rather than credit! And, who doesn't love knowing they have security blanket or a down payment for their first home. Being frugal is not a negative...nor does it mean you're 'cheap'.
If there is anything I can suggest to take away from this list is to continue working on your confidence. It's the most difficult thing to build and is something you will continue to work on. Don't stress or worry yourself with things you can't control, learn from the things you could have, and be confident in yourself that you are strong enough to move ahead. Remember, your 20’s are your building blocks so go ahead and build!
Wearing: Aldo shoes, American Eagle jeans, Aritzia scarf, Dress shirt from Winners, Jacket from Zara, Purse by Gucci.